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Posted by JR Atkinson

Sometimes when mistakes happen, you can feel like you want to blame someone, but there is nobody to blame. 

This employee was majorly frustrated with a scheduling error at the workplace, but the way it unfolded spoke to a larger trend of how we treat employees and what we're asking of them. The workplace already asks so much of us. Sacrifice is just another part of having a job. You fork over a lot of your time, energy, and creative juices, and you hope you get a little something in return, but it's not always that easy. The employee in this story noticed something unfair happening in her workplace that she needed to address, but wasn't sure how to go about it. Work conflicts can be difficult to get around, especially when you're worried about hurting someone's feelings. You also probably don't want to jeopardize your position by speaking out, and that might easily happen in certain kinds of toxic workplaces. 

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I have had both my flu and COVID jabs! With no more side-effects than a sore spot on my arm from the COVID one that lasted a few days, so that was nice, although it didn't make up for how appalling I felt on Tuesday (some sort of unholy combination of sleep-deprivation nausea and headache, rogue menstrual cramps breaking through the medication that keeps my periods away, and a roiling stomach unhappy with something I ate). Relieved to be only normal levels of rubbish today, honestly.

Instead I have been wallowing in the toils of New Outlook. We all know that change is hard, but I do try and give things a go before writing them off - but this time I don't think I've found a single thing that is an improvement, and every noticeable change so far has been for the worse. I keep enabling it and then having to go back because I can't deal with something. Half the time it loses all my secondary mailboxes (this was particularly fun last month, when I was dealing with an issue that generated lots of notification emails to one of them).

But the bigger problems I'm having is with places where Microsoft clearly feel that I'm interrogating the text from the wrong perspective. For instance, in old Outlook you have a little notification pop-up window, which comes up ahead of meetings and other calendar items, and then the items sit in it until you dismiss them. This is something I use a lot for, like, recurring tasks - I put into my calendar that I need to send the bulk email every other Tuesday, and then on Tuesday morning it looms up to spoil my whole day. But in new Outlook, it pops up in the corner of my window fifteen minutes before it's due, and then disappears forever. There is now an entire "notification pane" in the right-hand column, but I have no idea what it's for, because it's permanently empty and even if you have it open as a notification pops up in the corner, it doesn't show anything. After a bunch of web searching, the conclusion appears to be ¯\(ツ)/¯ don't use your calendar for reminders. But I can't tell where Microsoft thinks I should be putting recurring items so that they can remind me when they're due - like, is there another MS Office product that does that? It's not any of the ones I know! Do any of you who use Office have any insights into this mystery?

That's my biggest annoyance, but there's a whole bunch of little things - like, you can no longer look at the bottom of the screen and see a count of how many emails you have in the inbox you're looking at. The official recommendation is that you can mark everything as unread and then see the unread count on the folder list, but a) that's annoying and b) sometimes I don't want to mess up what is or isn't marked as read?? And you can't open several emails at once; you can open emails one after another until they're all open, but I regularly have scenarios where I want to open twenty emails at once in order to transfer information from all of them into a spreadsheet, or find duplicate / chase / follow-up emails in a batch so that I can delete the rest of the chain, and both of those are much easier to do with a series of open windows than when I'm scrolling up and down a big list, and it's so much easier to select them all and click "open" than it is to individually open sixty-four emails from the folder of shame. And I get a bunch of notification emails that sometimes have to wait for action until a new person starts, so I edit the email to specify the name and start date at the top, which means I can see at a glance why it's in my inbox... but new Outlook doesn't allow you to edit received emails any more.

Every day is a delightful opportunity to explore fun new frustrations!! At the moment I can switch back to old Outlook when I get too annoyed, but who knows how long that will last...
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Posted by Olivia Arocena

'It's me, hi, I'm the problem, It's me': I'm the type of person who never confirms plans, and I can tell you what goes on in my mind

I don't intend this to be a defense of flaky friends; I just want to explain what is possibly going on in the mind of someone who's flaky, ok?

I just wanna start by saying I wanna see you, just not necessarily on Saturday, ok? The plans I agreed to on Tuesday might not feel appealing on Saturday, and I rely heavily on my mood. Sometimes I don't want to go out; sometimes I'm exhausted and want to stay home in my jammies the whole day. Is that really so hard to understand?

I know I should be more responsible and not agree to the plans in the first place. Still, I genuinely want to see you, and I think I'll feel good on Saturday; it just happens that sometimes you have an unexpectedly rough week. Then, Saturday comes along, and you wanna hide under the covers and ignore all your calls.

I've tried being honest with friends about this and saying things along the lines of: Look, I'm agreeing now, but a lot of times when the day comes, I don't feel like it; I'm much better at making plans on the spot; and it has worked with some friends, but most friends simply don't understand it and take it personally.

Trust me, I tried attending the plans I already agreed to out of sheer commitment, and it always turns out horrible; I'll want to leave the entire time and bring the worst possible vibe to the function.

I guess, if I'm honest, that it has a little to do with how much desire I have to see said friend; I've gone great lengths to see friends I really wanted to see, and I'm not flaky at all on those occasions, but it's not as related to desire as people might think at first glance. I might really want to see you and not have the energy for it.

I know a friend cancelling on you last minute is objectively horrible, and I'm not defending it; I'm even trying to stop doing it completely. I'm genuinely just trying to be honest and maybe extract some understanding from the unflaky people out there.

Either way, I have to take responsibility for my actions and not make people organise their schedules around my moods, so I'll have to share the disclaimer that I can't make plans in advance.

It's selfish to expect everyone to be understanding or happy to accommodate. That said, some type of plans are easier to attend for me than others, like I love going to coffee shops and I hate going out at night, so I guess I just have to be more honest with myself and mostly just accept the plans that I like? Gosh, I hate having realizations; I can't take any more realizations this year. I need a break.

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Posted by María Cetra

Have you ever encountered money problems due to a financial mistake you made? Did you learn anything from it?

Money problems are common, especially with the current state of the world. People get into debt more and more, whether it is to buy a house, a car, go to college, or for medical expenses. Almost everything can make you need a loan and put you in debt. I'm not here to demonize loans. They are a good way to go through life and do and have the things you want without having to save for your whole lifetime before acquiring them. But they only work out if you are extremely careful with your finances, you cannot trust them to just work out eventually; you need to plan, have stability, and have as your main goal to pay them out. 

Nobody learns how to manage their finances unless they studied something related to that in college; it's not common knowledge. In school, you don't learn about credit cards, debt, loans, or even budgeting. So the only two ways you actually learn what to do with your money are by getting some tips from your parents or family members, or by making mistakes. The last one is the most common. People learn how to manage after already committing the mistakes that put them in money issues, and recovering is hard. That's why it is important to listen to what others have gone through as a way to learn not only from their mistake, but also how to recover from them. It can be stressful to have issues with your finances, but it's important to remember that you are not alone. A lot of people go through the same things. In the U.S., according to National Debt Relief, more than 45% of citizens have credit card debt, more than 35% have car loans, and more than 20% have student loans. So it's not uncommon to have debt. On the contrary, it is not that common to be debt-free. They explained that according to their data, only 23% of Americans are completely debt-free. 

"Most Americans have long had some level of debt, and if you've taken on more due to the rapid rise in the cost of living"

What we should take from all this is that being in debt is not bad in itself. You can get into debt like most people in the U.S. and not be in financial trouble. That is how the economy of the country works. The problem is when you have debt but no way of paying, or too much debt in categories like credit cards that have insane interest rates. So, if you are in debt, you are not alone, not at all. A lot of people are in the same situation. The important thing isn't the debt, is to have a plan to pay it and be aware of the interests they have to prioritize what to pay first. Financial mistakes happen, but not everything has to be a tragedy. There is a way to solve the problems; we just need to learn how to manage money most constructively to avoid them happening again. 

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Posted by Ally Perry

Must be nice to be completely unaware of the financial realities of modern life!

Old age supposedly comes with more wisdom, but one of the biggest drivers of generational rifts between young people, baby boomers, and even older generations is that they seem allergic to understanding the realities of being a youngish adult in today's world. Sure, there are Zoomers and millennials who could do with giving a bit more sympathy to their elders, and there are older people who can empathize with the fact that things just aren't as simple as they were back in their day. Nonetheless, even the well-meaning can sometimes have a conception of the lives of youth today that couldn't be further from the truth.

We have all heard the complaints about avocado toast, but the misinformation goes even further than that. The reason that some believe an innocent brunch snack is getting in the way of their grandkids affording to buy a house is that they genuinely think that starter homes are close to the same price they were when they were the target market. This isn't to say that older people didn't have their struggles, too, but it is the unwillingness of many to understand the problems faced by those still trying to make it in the world that can leave them shocked when they are faced with the cold, hard facts. Even an expense as simple as the price of a tank of gas can be enough to expose how they are out of touch.

 

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This was one of those weeks when several things come along making demands upon one's time and energies and while some of this might be considered to be what one has let oneself in for -

- really could have done without all of it having expectations of me Doing Something with a fair degree of expedition, even if some of this was pressure I was putting on myself.

It was really just as well that I found that the rescheduled postponed seminar - which I learnt about very late in the day - was already booked up so I couldn't get to it.

Not the week to have been smitten with a little story idea that I'd like to work on.

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